It’s hard for many women and some men to accept that men use extreme psychological tactics and manipulation to get away with committing horrific crimes against others but the truth is that many men do. For example Warren Jeffs getting away with raping little girls by telling them it’s ok because God wants it and when that wasn’t enough telling them to “stay sweet”. Well let’s be clear on something, almost all women on the planet are taught to be complicit in their own oppression by “staying sweet”. We’re told from birth to be quiet, that it is unladylike to speak loudly and that especially includes saying the word no. We’re not to say no ever, especially when someone, particularly not to a man who asks for something from us. Ironically when we do give in to sexual advances which we’re not allowed or taught how to say no to then we become, in the eyes of society, loose women who are then hated and ridiculed and seen as evil. Men have used mothers and other members of society to teach every new generation of women to be self oppressed and to teach men of all generations to oppress women and therefore themselves. And yet the laws on rape have been set up to allow rape to continue in copious amounts and to allow rapists to get away with the crime almost every single time. And how did they do that ……. they did it by telling women to be quiet, to not say no but then telling men to take whatever they want and then making it so the laws say that only a loud and continual no can make it clear that sex was not wanted and even if a women does say no, which rarely happens as women who’re raped are many times unconscious or too afraid to say no ,as we’re taught our entire lives, then we’re told that they (juries, lawyers, judges, cops, etc…) can’t be certain of what happened and therefore cannot bring charges against, take to trial, or convict the ” alleged rapist”. It is a state of affairs that rapists use to their advantage and yes they do know these laws they do know that women are hated and treated like shit by all including other women and they know that as a result they will get away with the crimes they commit and in some recorded cases one rapist with 300 or more victims in his lifetime. These rapists not only use the knowledge above but they also use their naturally heightened psychological abilities to pick targets who may freeze up, not fight back, etc…. and/or to pick targets who won’t speak up afterwards or go through with trial etc….
Yes we have to accept that sociopaths are real and that not even all rapists are sociopaths. We have to accept that yes there are people who deliberately want to hurt others. If we cannot accept this then we are dooming future generations as well as ourselves to being at the mercy of the ruthless and calculating evil members of our species. And that is simply too sad a state of affairs to be allowed to continue.
When I sat for this photo I was already a sexual abuse statistic.
A few months after sitting for this photo, a coworker would try to assault me in an empty part of the museum.